Honesty

Of course, honesty starts with being honest with ourselves. We want to believe this or that because our emotions demand it, but that is just a lie we are telling ourselves to temporarily appease those emotions.

The truth is what sets us free to enjoy and love all that life has to offer.  If we cannot love all that life has to offer then someplace we are not being honest with ourelves.

As one seeks this truth they sooner or later discover that they can't "know" anything of the past or future, and that best they can only "know" the present that is here and now.  Knowing the present that is here and now is called Gnosticism.  Admitting that we can't know the past or future and becoming comfortable with aht is called mysticism.

It is really had to be honest even with ourselves when the whole world around us is being dishonest with itself and encouraging us to be dishonest with ourelves.  It is also hard because nobody really want to ALWAYS be totally honest with themselves, for the drama of the illusion I so much fun and brings so much vitality to the life experience. 

Getting free to love what life has to offer takes a radical sense of personal honesty, honest with ourselves first and with the world secondly.  But society has encourages us and we now have very deeply engrained habits of being dishonest with ourselves and with the world.  Until a person can see this and can see how that dishonesty is hurting them and keeping them trapped in a vicious cycle of self abuse they will continue this unhealthy habit.

As children we are taught to believe that others are responsible for our emotional reactions.  It is just part of the culture, there is no one to blame for that, not even ourselves.  But now that we are aware of how unhealthy this habit is we do have a choice to either continue with this unhealthy habit and perpetuate the cycle of suffering or we can choose to change our ways of thinking and our habitual reactions to those thoughts. 

Emotional healing is the process of recognizing that our emotions are a product of our lack of clarity or honest TO OURSELVES and practicing radical honesty without ourselves which keeps us in the present moment, the here and now.  The practice 'heals' the habitual emotional reaction that causes us so much pain and suffering.  We then begin to relax and stop injuring ourselves with our emotional reactions to the thoughts in our head.  RELAXING around our thoughts is the key to healing ourselves emotionally and allowing the truth to do it perfect task.

When people fear honesty and openness then they are closed to true love.  The more problems you have in relationships the less honesty you are having.  Relationships and life can be perfect when you are perfectly honest.  Of course, we must recognize that life offers us ups and downs and that we cannot always be totally honesty.  We are going to go through times when we say things that are dishonest, where we do not even know the truth ourselves.  We will say one thing and discover later that they truth was something else.

When we realize we have been dishonest and have the courage to come back and admit that then the other people will begin to trust us and that we will be able to work things out even if we can't at this moment.